Let Go & Embrace.
Dropping expectations to find acceptance and freedom.
I’ve had time to explore expectations recently and in particular have been considering how easy it is to carry them, often without being aware that’s what is happening.
These expectations can be subtle.
For example, the expectation to practice self-care, or the expectation to behave in a certain way towards others. They can also be about ourselves, like the expectation to control our thoughts or reactions.
Just yesterday, I was working with a child with complex autism for the first time. As always, I approached the session with no expectations. The child was initially hesitant to enter the new space, but he quickly settled in and stayed with me for a good 45 minutes. The mother was amazed, asking me what I did. I simply explained that…
“When we have no expectations, it takes the pressure off, allowing us to be more inviting and present.”
As humans, we often find ourselves on an emotional rollercoaster. Things happen, and people behave in ways that hurt or upset us. This often stems from the expectations we have on ourselves and others.
It's important to take time to reflect on the impact of expectations. We have expectations about everything, from how our day will go to how much self-care we should do. These expectations create pressure, and self-care shouldn't be about pressure. It should be about gentleness, presence, love, and most importantly, acceptance.
When we let go of expectations and embrace acceptance, we find freedom. We accept children as they are, welcoming them with open arms. So, I wonder, what would it take for us to truly welcome ourselves with open arms, without expectations, but with love, acceptance, and kindness? To embrace our humanness, our messy emotions, and the full spectrum of feelings that come with being alive?
Sometimes, our feelings can be uncomfortable and even unpleasant. We might react with anger or sadness when we feel hurt. It's worth reflecting on our expectations in these moments. Did we not see the other person as human? Where does forgiveness come into play?
I believe in the power of forgiveness, and I am actively practicing self-forgiveness throughout the day. Every time I have a difficult thought, I forgive myself for having it. This practice, like everything else, is connected to expectations.
So, this is my brief share for today. I hope you are all enjoying the sunshine and the feeling of light returning.
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Jyoti Manuel
